A Room of One's Own

Woolf, Virginia. (1929). A Room of One's Own. New York: Harcourt, Brace & World, Inc.

A Room Of One's Own started as a series of lectures written and delivered by Virginia Woolf, to the Arts Society at Newnham College and Girton College in October 1928, originally titled, "On Women and Fiction." The papers were too long to be read in full. They were expanded and put into book form in 1929.

I remember first reading this toward the end of college. It was foundational. I am happy to be nearing the end of the 'little kid' phase of parenting. My youngest is entering Kindergarten. I finally feel I have time to put into work and personal interests. I am grateful for the time I've been able to put into parenting up to this point. And I'm equally grateful that the time is opening up, kids are off to school, and there is time for other things. There is a wonderful new chapter waiting to be written. Don't worry Mother Woolf... contributions will be made!! Below is one of my favorite passages.

Text below is taken from the end of the book - Chapter 6, pgs 195-199


"How can I further encourage you to go about the business of life? Young women, I would say, and please attend, for the peroration is beginning, you are, in my opinion, disgracefully ignorant. You have never made a discovery of any sort of importance. You have never shaken an empire or led an army into battle. The plays of Shakespeare are not by you, and you have never introduced a barbarous race to the blessings of civilization. What is your excuse? It is all very well for you to say, pointing to the streets and squares and forests of the globe swarming with black and white and coffee colored inhabitants, all busily engaged in traffic and enterprise and love-making, we have had other work on our hands. Without our doing, those seas would be unsailed and those fertile lands a desert. We have borne and bread and washed and taught, perhaps to the age of six or seven years, the one thousand six hundred and twenty-three million human beings who are, according to statistics, at present in existence, and that, allowing that some had some help, takes time.

There is truth in what you say--I will not deny it. But at the same time, may I remind you that there have been at least two colleges for women in existence in England since the year 1866; that after the year 1880 a married woman was allowed by law to posses her own property; and that in 1919--which is a whole nine years ago--she was given a vote? May I also remind you that the most of the professions have been open to you for close on ten years now? When you reflect upon these immense privileges and the length of time during which they have been enjoyed, and the fact that there must be at this moment some two thousand women capable of earning over five hundred a year in one way or another, you will agree that the excuse of lack of opportunity, training, encouragement, leisure and money no longer holds good. Moreover, the economists are telling us that Mrs. Seton has had too many children. You must, of course, go on bearing children, but, so they say in twos and threes, not in tens and twelves.

Thus, with some time on your hands and with some book learning in your brains--you have had enough of the other kind and are sent to college partly, I suspect, to be un-educated--surely you should embark upon another stage of your very long, very laborious and highly obscure career. A thousand pens are ready to suggest what you should do and what effect you will have. My own suggestion is a little fantastic, I admit; I prefer, therefore, to put it in the form of fiction.

I told you in the course of this paper that Shakespeare had a sister; but do not look for her in Sir Sidney Lee's life of the poet. She died young--alas, she never wrote a word. She lies buried where the omnibuses now stop, opposite the Elephant and Castle. Now my belief is that this poet who never wrote a word and was buried at the crossroads still lives. She lives in you and in me, and in many other women who are not here tonight, for they are washing up the dishes and putting the children to bed. But she lives; for great poets do not die; they are continuing presences; they need only the opportunity to walk among us in the flesh. This opportunity, as I think, is now coming within your power to give her. For my belief is that if we live another century or so--I am talking of the common life which is the real life and not the little separate lives which we live as individuals--and have five hundred a year each of us and rooms of our own; if we have the habit of freedom and the courage to write exactly what we think; if we escape a little from the common sitting-room and see human beings not always in their relation to each other but in relation to reality; and the sky, too, and the trees or whatever it may be in themselves; if we look past Milton's bogey, for no human being should shut out the view; if we face the fact, for it is a fact that there is no arm to cling to, but that we go alone and that our relation is to the world of reality and not only to the world of men and women, then the opportunity will come and the dead poet who was Shakespeare's sister will put on the body which she has so often laid down. Drawing her life from the lives of the unknown who were her forerunners, as her brother did before her, she will be born. As for her coming without that preparation, without that effort on our part, without that determination that when she is born again she shall find it possible to live and write her poetry, that we cannot expect, for that would be impossible. But I maintain that she would come if we worked for her, and that so to work, even in poverty and obscurity, is worth while."

Pendulum Swinger by the Indigo Girls

"Pendulum Swinger"
by the Indigo Girls
Lyrics by Emily Saliers

I meet you for coffee
We get together periodically
I got a bad case I can't shake off of me
The fevered walking round wondering how it ought to be
You work in the system
You see possibilities and your glistening
Eyes show the hell you're gonna give 'em
When they back off the mic for once and give it to a woman

I dream like a mad one
Brutal fantasies I catch as catch can
I'm a psychic and a laywoman
I see love and I like to make it happen
What we get from your war walk
Ticker of the nation breaking down like a bad clock
I want the pendulum to swing again
So that all your mighty mandate was just spitting in the wind

It doesn't come by the bullwhip
It's not persuaded with your hands on your hips
Not the company of gunslingers
The epicenter love is the pendulum swinger
She is she is she is

It's fine about the old scroll Sanskrit
Gnostic gospels the da vinci code a smash hit
Aren't we dying just to read it and relate
Too hard just to go by a blind faith
But they left out the sisters
Praying to a father god so long I really missed her
The goddess of benevolence
You should listen to your mama if you have a lick of sense left

Pushed under by the main press, buried under a code of dress
Relegated by the Vatican
But you can't keep a spirit down that wants to get up again

If we're a drop in the bucket
With just enough science to keep from saying fuck it
Until the last drop of sun burns its sweet light
Plenty revolutions left until we get this thing right

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Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde

It is necessary to teach by living and speaking those truths which we believe and know beyond understanding.  Because in this way alone we can survive, by taking part in a process of life that is creative and continuing, that is growth.

And it is never without fear—of visibility, of the harsh light of scrutiny and perhaps judgment, of pain, of death.  But we have lived through all of those already in silence, except death.  And I remind myself all the time now that if I were to have been born mute, or had maintained an oath of silence my whole life long for safety, I would still have suffered, and I would still die. It is very good for establishing perspective.

And where the words of women are crying to be heard, we must each of us recognize our responsibility to seek those words out, to read them and share them and examine them in their pertinence to our lives.  That we not hide behind the mockeries of separations that have been imposed upon us and which so often we accept as our own.

We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own needs for language and definition, and while we wait in silence for that final luxury of fearlessness, the weight of that silence will choke us.

The fact that we are here and that I speak these words is an attempt to break that silence and bridge some of those differences between us, for it is not difference which immobilizes us, but silence.  And there are so many silences to be broken.

Lorde, Audre. (1984). Sister Outsider.  (p. 43-44). Berkley, CA: The Crossing Press.

Sisters in Spirit

by Teri VanLieshout
February 2005

My sisters
Generation to generation
Across time and distance
Sing to my spirit,
Giving my soul a place to be nourished and grow.

With gratitude I wake
To see the new light of each day.
Starting in solitude
And going to a place
Of community and family.

You are my touchstones.
In each turn of life
that brings my spirit to yours,
I learn more about
what it means to be
a woman,
a daughter,
a mother,
a wife,
a friend,
a teacher,
a citizen of this world.

In our sisterhood,
We are the life-blood of this planet,
Bringing wisdom and love,
Hope and joy,
Laughter,
Dignity in sorrow and grief,
Bravery,
Leadership,
Strength,
Courage,
And compassion,

To the places of our own,
Our families,
Our communities,
And the quietest part of ourselves,
Which is the interface between this world
And the next.

It is in our friendships
And the cherished places where we meet each other
That we feed the purest part of ourselves,
That becomes the woman
Who meets the word.

It is with gratitude
That I greet the dawn of each day,
And give thanks for
My sisters in spirit,
Who brighten my life.